I first heard Jolene Park on a podcast a few years ago. I remember stopping the podcast over and over so I could feverishly take notes on everything she was saying. What she was saying made so much sense to me. I had never heard anyone else describe drinking in a way that rang so true for me. We were definitely on the same page. I had always believed that one did not have to be physically addicted to alcohol to have a reason to quit drinking it. I felt that not everyone has to have a problem drinking for drinking to be a problem. I was living proof damn it! She articulated all my beliefs around drinking so well. And I was blown away by her ability to describe on a chemical level why we are so prone to drinking and how we can actually stop the cravings by using specific tools. She immediately had my attention and my respect.
Jump forward two + years, I finally decide to take the leap to build on my work in this community by furthering my own experience and education with a coaching program. Something I had been resisting for longer than I care to admit. So I put out my feelers, but I took my time. I wasn’t going to do it with just anyone or any program. It had to be the right fit, and it had to feel good, like really good. Otherwise, it just wasn’t going to work for me.
Shortly after that, I saw an article written by Jolene. It was so smart and again so full of my own story. However, I noticed a couple of comments on the material that blew my mind. In short, people were stating that this gray area, the area that is so real for me, is just a way to pretty up alcoholism and it doesn’t really exist.
Enter: fire under my ass!
Once I stopped yelling at my husband about the whole situation, I immediately reached out to Jolene and said I wanted to take my experience, my love of this growing community and my tough love personality and do something more with it. Something more than just the daily IG posts. Something more than answering questions over and over without ever really getting to know the women who are on the other end of those questions.
I told her I wanted to work on a deeper level with the women who are sitting somewhere between the lines of being an occasional social drinker and someone who has found themselves physically addicted to alcohol. Someone who may admit that “no, life is not that bad,” but they want more out of this life than the endless merry go round of party, hangover, regret, party, hangover, regret.
I told her I believed in what she was doing and I wanted to do my part in reaching more women who are in this vast area of gray. The area of drinking that is very real and personally one I know all too well.
Believe me, I am the last person who ever thought I would become a “coach.” A word I never really took seriously and gave more than a couple side eyes. But no matter how much I resisted this work, I finally realized it was precisely the right path and the right time for me.